When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day is not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and two cups of coffee.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and fills it with golf balls.

He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured it into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls.

He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else.

He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous “YES”.

The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.

“Now,” said the professor, as the laughter subsided, “I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things – God, family, children, health, friends, and favorite passions. Things, that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the things that matter like your job, house, and car. The sand is everything else — the small stuff.” he said.

“If you put the sand into the jar first,” he continued, “There is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you…” he told them.

“So… pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Worship with your family. Play with your children. Take your partner out to dinner. Spend time with good friends. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the dripping tap. Take care of the golf balls first — the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.”

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented.

The professor smiled and said, “I’m glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend.”


李嘉诚的司机给李嘉诚开车开了30多年,准备离职离去。
李嘉诚看他兢兢业业干了这么多年,为了能让他安度晚年,拿了200万支票给他。
司机说不用了,一两千万还是拿的出来的,李嘉诚很诧异,问:你每个月只有5-6千收入,怎么能存下这么多!
司机回答说:”我在开车时候您在后面打电话的时候说买哪个地方的地皮,我也会去买一点,您说要买哪支股票的时候,我也会去买买一点股票,到现在有一两千万的资产!
跟着百万赚十万,跟着千万赚百万,跟着亿万赚千万。一根稻草不值钱,绑在白菜上,就是白菜的价钱,绑在大闸蟹上就是大闸蟹的价格。
跟着苍蝇近厕所,跟着蜂蜜找花朵,跟积极的人在一起,你就是积极的,跟着消极的在一起,你就会出口成脏。
朋友,看看你所在的环境,需要改变没有呢?
现实生活中,你和谁在一起的确很重要,甚至能改变你的成长轨迹,决定你的人生成败。
和什么样的人在一起,就会有什么样的人生。和勤奋的人在一起,你不会懒惰;和积极的人在一起,你不会消沉;与智者同行,你会不同凡响;与高人为伍,你能登上巅峰。
科学家研究认为:”人是唯一能接受暗示的动物。”积极的暗示,会对人的情绪和生理状态产生良好的影响,激发人的内在潜能,发挥人的超常水平,使人进取,催人奋进。
远离消极的人吧!否则,他们会在不知不觉中偷走你的梦想,使你渐渐颓废,变得平庸。
积极的人像太阳,照到哪里哪里亮;消极的人像月亮,初一十五不一样。态度决定一切。有什么态度,就有什么样的未来:性格决定命运。有怎样的性格,就有怎样的人生。
有人说,人生有三大幸运:上学时遇到一位好老师;工作时遇到一位好师傅;成家时遇到一个好伴侣。
有时他们一个甜美的笑容,一句温馨的问候,就能使你的人生与众不同,光彩照人。
生活中最不幸的是:由于你身边缺乏积极进取的人,缺少远见卓识的人,使你的人生变得平平庸庸,黯然无光!
有句话说得好:你是谁并不重要,重要的是你和谁在一起。


Written by Smita Malhotra, M.D.. Original post here.

These are eight lessons I want to teach my daughter. I have learned these through many mistakes, periods of introspection and learning in my life.

My hope for her is to live authentically, passionately and gracefully.

1. If someone hurts you, don’t take it personally

Chances are, they have been hurt themselves. In fact, never take anything personally. Don’t let compliments get to your head and don’t let criticism get you down. It is a known fact that most people can only give others what they have received themselves.

All your actions and words should come from a place of love. But not everyone will be loving back. And that is OK.

As Miguel Ruiz explained in his book The Four Agreements, when you do not take anything personally, you are in a place of liberation. You can interact with the world through the lens of an open heart, not having to worry about what others will say.

2. Keep a portion of what you earn for saving and another for giving back

Learn to see money as a tool with which you can achieve your greatest dreams. But it is also a tool that can be used to do tremendous good in the world. If you are blessed with a lot of money, do not waste this opportunity. Use it to change a social condition, to uplift a community and to inspire others.

Someone once gave me some great advice about money:

With every dollar that you earn, keep one third to spend, one third to save, and one third to give back to the world.

3. Live every day as if it was a Friday

Speaking of money, do not trade money for meaning in your life. Hopefully you will find a career that gives you meaning and all the money that you need. Finding meaning is the only way to live every day as if it was a Friday.

You cannot live your life just waiting for the weekend. Find something that excites you. As Dr. Wayne Dyer once said, “Do not die with your music still inside of you.”

Your job in this life is to find your music and go about the business of sharing it with the world.
If you have not found your music yet, keep searching. Do one thing everyday that makes you happy. Make it a Friday, every single day.

4. You do not need anyone’s approval

The need for approval is like an addiction. If you base all your actions on the approval of others, ultimately you will sacrifice your own happiness. Don’t put the key to your happiness in someone else’s pocket. Learn how to say “no” to people and obligations that do not add value to your life.

Your time on this earth is precious. You must invest your time like you invest money. Invest in people and activities that uplift you. As the saying goes, “What you do today is important, because you are exchanging a day of your life for it.”

5. In every tough situation, try kindness first

People may make ugly comments. The airline may lose your bags. Another driver may cut you off. These situations will happen everyday. How are you going to respond?

Although your first response like many others will be to get angry, why not try a different approach? Anger in these situations rarely solves problems. People are more likely to respond to kindness. And you can be kind and be firm.

Get your point across without sacrificing your integrity. It is the only response that you will not regret later. No matter how upset you are, always treat others with respect. You will be surprised at how much can be accomplished with kindness.

6. Do not complain unless you can suggest a solution

Do not be a constant complainer. No one likes that person. If you do not like your current situation, work towards changing it. But don’t sit and complain about it. Complaining will get you nowhere. In fact, it will only make others not want to be around you. Be someone that looks for the positive in every situation. And if you do find a problem, be someone that can suggest a solution.

You will never get to where you want to be by complaining about where you are now. Each step in your life is preparing you for the one that comes after it.

7. Learn to be present

While technology can be life-changing in many great ways, there is an aspect to technology that interferes with our relationships. Do not be so addicted to a screen that you miss enjoying real life happening in front of you. Learn to disconnect everyday.

Learn to slow down. Give people your full and un-divided attention. Do not seek mindless stimulation on a screen and learn to make real human connections.

8. Don’t let the world make you bitter

The world can be a difficult place. You may experience suffering, heartbreak or the loss of a loved one. All of these things can take a toll on your soul. But do not lose hope.

Think about the Yin and Yang in Chinese philosophy, which states that opposite forces are often interconnected. In suffering, you can find great strength, in heartbreak you can find resilience and in loss you can find a renewed appreciation for life.

Life comes with Yin and Yang. The two opposites are interdependent and interconnected. And you do not need to be afraid. In every difficult situation, you are being tested. If you become bitter and angry, you have lost.

Stop to notice each flower, each weed that is breaking through the cement to find the sun and each butterfly that has found it’s wings. Learn to see the beauty around you.

Iaian Thomas wrote:

Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard.
Do not let pain make you hate. Do not let bitterness steal your sweetness.
Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree,
you still know it to be a beautiful place.

Keep your sweetness. Be soft. And know that the world is a beautiful place. Always.


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